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You and the family are doing all you can, keep doing so. This is not a fight mom can win. Eventually she will be out of steam and subside. In the meantime I admire her fight. You quoted Dylan Thomas, in response, may I quote Emily Dickinson " Because I could not stop for Death – He kindly stopped for me"
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I feel so bad for you, because you can see what lies down the road. Your mother is still in the stage where, even though she has been told death is near, she doesn't accept it as true. Inside her mind she still feels fine, and if things around her would change, then she would be okay.

There will likely come a point that she will realize that death is near. I don't know when that time will be, but you will see the changes when it happens. Some people get more peaceful and accepting. I don't know if everyone does. Maybe others know more about this.

I don't know if there is anything we can do about elder rage other than try to let it go. The thing I found that works best is reassurance that they are cared for. This is easier to say than it is to do. Sometimes we have to walk away for a while to keep our own anger in check.

It sounds like you and your siblings are doing a wonderful job caring for your mother. That is all that you can do. I'm glad you are there for each other.
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